My view on dating:

I believe dating to be a very sensitive issue that needs to be looked at through the eyes of Christ, not necessarily conforming one's view's to society's. Dating, in my view should only be looked at or even considered after a person has formed a firm foundation with God, through Jesus Christ. I think that if one were to engage in a relationship with the opposite sex before this foundation is laid, you will deprive yourself of much needed wisdom and understanding. If your focus is not on Christ when you first become a Christian, you will seriously hinder the workings of the Lord in your life. This is probably the most sensitive time where all of your focus needs to be on God, Jesus Christ, and the Holy Spirit; before anyone can build a house on top of their foundation, they need top be sure that their foundation is true and set. A good parable for you to look at would be in Mathew 7:24-27.

Now once you and Christ have this firm and set foundation and you begin to build upon it, it is imperative that you seek the face of the Lord and see how He sees when it comes to dating. For if we look through our own eyes, we will only see what we want to see and be selective in the choices we make. Please do not get me wrong, I think we need to be selective in some sense, but we would tend to be selective in a lustful sense. Now if we look at someone of the opposite sex and feel compelled to ask this person out on a date, I think we need to examine our motives behind, why we feel compelled to take such a step. I think more often times than not we take this step and we get rushed away by our feelings and emotions and then we start to trust and lean on these instead of the Lord. Our feelings and emotions will change as we grow and as we mature, they are a very unstable pair. We need to base our decisions on something that is more stable, something that will remain pure and true through any type of situation you may be facing.

Now if you date a person and things start to escalate, it is very important that you remained focused on your first love, which should be Jesus Christ and God. It says in His word that God is love, so if we lose sight of our first love, this one true love, then all other types and forms of love are self-seeking. However if you remain focused on your first love and let this be the governing body over your relationship, you will not only remain true and obedient to God, but you will remain true and obedient to yourself and your significant other. If your love is true then you will not have to compromise or even have to worry about the motive and the actions that will take place within your relationship. I am not saying that you will not face temptation, but this temptation will not get the better of you if your love is true.

Well this is just a short summary of my feelings and view points on dating. IF you have any comments or question concerning anything you have read here please feel free to email me at the email located on my home page or post your comments on the bulletin board.